Musings of a Heathen

thessalian:

lascapigliata:

sazandodile:

Just… wow

People are so disgusting to asexuals

I never knew it was that goddamned bad wow

This… this terrible article is so awful in general, but it’s so bad because the commenters agree with the writer.

People commenting and treating women like pieces of meat and how ace women who won’t “put-out” in a relationship are considered cockteases.

But the worst part about is a ton of the commenters are ADVOCATING FORCED SEX AGAINST ASEXUALS TO “FIX” THEM, BECAUSE ALL THEY NEED IS TO BE “FUCKED RIGHT”.

I just

I can’t

I fucking can’t anymore

this is really really sickening and i at once don’t want to have this anywhere near my blog but also it’s important

like wow look why intersectionality is important, look at how rape culture and heterosexism and sexism all come together in this one spectacularly awful post

look how erasure starts to bleed from not just ace erasure to all queer erasure to denial of rape and victim blaming

…Y’know, I’ve known a few people who consider that my asexuality doesn’t get me discrimination, judgement or hate speak. Because apparently, who cares about how much sex I’m not getting? I’m not considered abnormal or wrong or sick like homosexuals, bisexuals or pansexuals because not-having-sex? Who cares?

It’s bad enough when I have to explain that there is discrimination against people who don’t feel sexual attraction EVERYWHERE. It’s bad enough having to point out every TV show, movie, book and piece of advertising that caters specifically to people who sexualise everything and pointing out how I’m left on the outside of that. Who I am is completely ignored by the mainstream … and, frankly, everyone else.

But then I read this, and I know for sure - this is how people out there really see me. Because I want a relationship but do not feel sexual attraction, THIS is how people see me. A cocktease. A frigid bitch. Someone damaged. Someone selfish enough to keep someone who wants a sexual relationship out of one if they choose to be with me based on who I am and how I express love.

Comments about how I must have been sexually abused (as a child or otherwise), comments about how ‘how do you know if you haven’t tried?’ and being told I just did it wrong when I explain that I have tried, comments about how I should see a doctor because maybe it’s depression or hormone deficiency … that’s bad enough. But to be vilified like this? To have this level of hate speech directed at my sexuality?

The next person who tells me that I don’t need the kind of support that the LGBT community does because I don’t get that kind of abuse is getting the lecture of ALL TIME.

I was appalled by what I read in that “article”, if I can even call it that.  The person who wrote that just … there are no words I can use to fully convey the level of disgust I had regarding the conclusions the person was making based off what the girl was saying.  How do you even come to those conclusions?  Does compassion or empathy even exist in that person’s vocabulary?

Just, ugh!

I guess narrow-mindedness comes in new ways I never thought possible before.